Fall Hike & Chinese Food (Yummy!)

Taking a break at Elliot Tower after our hike.

Last August, when we were driving home from our camping trip, one of the au pairs mentioned that she would like to go on a hike for one of our monthly au pair activities this fall. There happens to be a great place for hiking just a few short miles from my house, so I told the girls that  we could meet up at my house and then head over to Blue Hills for an afternoon hike.   Everyone seemed to like that idea.

There were 3 Chinese au pairs riding in my car. As we were talking about things that the au pairs enjoy doing with their host families, one of them mentioned that she loves to cook.  Well, I love Chinese food.  Stephanie told me she would be happy to show me how to cook some traditional Chinese dishes.  That’s when I got the bright idea to combine these two things.  We could meet up at my house, drive to Blue Hills  for an invigorating hike, and then come back to my house to prepare some tasty Chinese dishes for everyone to enjoy.

This all sounded great, so I immediately sent out my Evite to the au pairs in my cluster.  As always, I told them to feel free to invite a friend or two.  I figured we would have about 10 or 15 people show up for the hike.  As it turns out, we had about 25 guests RSVP for the hike and Chinese food get together.  Yikes! That’s a lot of dumplings to prepare.  I decided I should prepare some food ahead of time so that the hungry hikers would have something to fill their stomachs while we were busy cooking all of that Chinese food.

We would be making Chinese dumplings together and Stephanie, our Chinese chef for the evening, would also be preparing several main course meat and noodle dishes for us.  I wanted to make something that would compliment what she was making.  I went through my recipe books, and couldn’t find anything that sounded good.  Then I remembered that Au Pair Sis has many interesting recipes on her Pinterest account, so I went there to find something that was easy to make, would feed the masses, could be prepared ahead of time, and had an Asian-inspired theme.  I found a recipe for Coconut Chicken Soup that sounded like it just might do the trick.  So, I prepared my soup and awaited the arrival of my au pair friends.

Girls hiking up Great Blue Hill.

After everyone who was planning to hike arrived, we headed over to Blue Hills.  Blue Hills Reservation is composed of 22 hills that stretch over 7,000 acres from Quincy to Dedham and Milton to Randolph.  The tallest of the hills, Great Blue Hill is easily accessed from the Trailside Museum, which is about 4 miles from my house.  We started our adventure at the Trailside Museum, up the Red Dot trail to Elliot Tower which is at the top of Great Blue Hill.  The elevation is 635 feet which provides for a great view of the Boston city skyline.  It also provides a great place to take pictures.

Anna, Monica and Ligia enjoying the scenery.

The hike up to Elliot Tower took about 30 minutes.  So, you would expect the hike down to take maybe 20-25 minutes?  Well, that sounds about right except we took the wrong trail.  So, instead of the quick straight downhill hike, we took a long meandering hike that took us about an hour to complete.  But that was okay because we were all having fun chatting and getting to know each other better.

“Chef Stephanie” preparing our food.

When we finally arrived back at my house, the real fun began.  Stephanie prepared the filling for our Chinese dumplings.  Her “assistants” Lilly, JinJin, and Shirley demonstrated the finesse needed to properly stuff the filling between the dumpling wrappers.  Ksenia, an au pair from Russia, made one small change to their recipe.  In Russia, when families and friends are gathered for celebrations, Russian dumplings are a traditional dish.  They are very similar to the Chinese dumplings, but the stuffing is a little different.  One of their customs is to secretly hide a special treat inside one (or more) of the dumplings.  The person who received the dumpling with the special surprise is said to have good luck!  So, for fun, we hid some pieces of banana in a few of the dumplings.  (The special ingredient can be just about anything–the point is to make the dumpling different than the rest.) 

Our Chinese cooks preparing the stuffing for the dumplings.

We had a lot of fun tasting all of the yummy dishes that Stephanie and her crew prepared for us.  And it was interesting to see the various ways the au pairs from different countries liked to wrap their dumplings.

Learning the tricky art of stuffing dumplings!

Our good friend, Lilly, was getting ready to return home to China later that week.  So, we all enjoyed a special farewell cake.  Lilly was especially excited about returning home because she was expecting a proposal from her boyfriend at the airport.

Dani, an au pair from Brazil had just arrived a few days before and was able to join us for her first cultural activity.  “I really enjoyed this experience!” Dani said. “My favorite part was to know so many girls at once, chat with them and know a little bit more about their cultures and their experiences as au pairs. ” “And, of course, the food,” she added.

Stephanie heard from Lilly shortly after she returned, and confirmed that Lilly had, in fact, gotten engaged.  Congratulations Lilly!  Best wishes for a bright future.

The Gathering Was Bittersweet As We Said Farewell & Best Wishes to Lilly.

Our August Adventure Day 2: In Search of POTUS

As I had mentioned before,  the Falmouth Road Race was in town on Sunday.   Our original plan was to take the 10:00 a.m. ferry out of Woods Hole.  Unfortunately, the town of Falmouth had to start closing roads early in the a.m.  We were advised by the trusty management staff at the campground that our best bet would be to take the Island Queen Ferry, and we’d better leave early because the crowds were going to start gathering by 9:00 a.m.  So we decided to take the 9:00 a.m. ferry, which meant we had to leave around 8:15 a.m.

Packing up our campsite was somehow not as fun as setting it up.

Now 8:15 a.m. doesn’t sound too bad.  But remember, there were 15 au pairs who needed to all get ready.  And we had to break down and pack up our campsite before we left for the day.  Since I hadn’t really gone to sleep, getting up was not a problem for me.  I got up, cleaned the mess that the crows had made of our trash, put breakfast out for everyone to eat and fixings for sandwiches out for anyone who wanted to brown bag it for the day on Martha’s Vineyard.

We managed to get ready, pack up our campsite, and get on the road by 8:20 a.m. The traffic on the way to the ferry was not as bad as expected.  At one point when we were very close to the ferry, traffic was stopped so that a motorcade could pass.  There were about 15 policemen on motorcycles followed by a black SUV.  “Could it be Obama?”  some of the girls in my car asked.  “No, the President doesn’t ride in a Chevrolet,” one of the au pairs answered.  It was just the motorcade for the Falmouth Road Race.  We managed to get there with about 10 minutes to spare.  All was well in the world.

Enjoying the harbor views. Oceanfront homes and luxury boats!

It was a perfect sunny 78-degree day.  The warm  sea breeze was very calming for our 45-minute ferry ride after our stressful morning rush.  We enjoyed looking at the ocean front houses and watching sailboats glide by us as we made our way from the lovely Falmouth harbor to the beautiful harbor at Oak Bluffs on Martha’s Vineyard.

Enjoying morning coffee on the ferry.

The conversation on the ferry ride was all about President Obama.  Would we see the President while we were on Martha’s Vineyard?  Could we go to Chilmark where he was known to be staying? Perhaps we  might see him playing golf at his favorite golf course or shopping in Vineyard Haven at his favorite book store?  Lisa from Germany was thinking about renting a car so she could drive around the island in search of POTUS.  (Unfortunately, when she found out it costs about $375 to rent a car for the day, she decided she would just let fate take it’s course to determine if she should meet the President of the United States.)

Welcome to Oak Bluffs!

Once we arrived at Oak Bluffs, all of us except for two of the German au pairs, decided to rent bikes and explore the island.  (They had to leave the island early because they were headed to a concert in Boston that night.)  There is a nice little family-run bike rental shop right across from the ferry terminal called Anderson’s Bike Rentals.  They gave us a group rate of $15/pp to rent our bikes for the day.  The employees there were very friendly and helpful.

The friendly folks at Anderson’s Bike Rentals had us on our way in now time!

They provided us with maps of the island and showed us the various routes that tourists normally take and told us approximately how long it should take to complete each route.  They also pointed out some places on the map that President Obama was known to frequent when he is on the island in case we wanted to increase our odds of a POTUS sighting.  The Chinese au pairs were particularly excited about this possibility!

Smiling au pairs en route to Edgartown.

There are really nice bike paths all around Martha’s Vineyard.  We decided to take Beach Road from Oak Bluffs to Edgartown.   We would stop off in Edgartown, have lunch and explore the little town.  On the way, we passed several beaches and the famous bridge from the movie “Jaws”.  There were many tourists lined up and ready to jump off the bridge.  (None of us were that daring.  We just watched.)

We were cruising along at a leisurely pace, enjoying the scenery.  I started to notice that my leisurely pace was really slow.  That’s when I realized I had a flat tire.  I called the bike rental place and they told me someone would be there in about 10 minutes.  I told the au pairs to continue on and wait for me in Edgartown.  I hung out on the side of the bike trail and tried to avoid being hit by the oncoming bikes.  The young kid from Anderson’s Bike Rentals showed up pretty quickly and exchanged my bike for one with air in both tires.

The bike path on Beach Road. Not too shabby.

By the time I caught up with the au pairs in Edgartown,  our group had been cut in half.  It seems that some of the au pairs decided they wanted to make the loop to Vineyard Haven, and that was fine.  The rest of us peddled around Edgartown until we found a spot to park our bikes.  By now, everyone was “starving”.  (I learned that food is important to these girls!)

The quintessentially quaint Edgartown, MA.

We walked around town towards the harbor.  The au pairs decided to eat lunch at The Wharf Restaurant.  I decided that I would give them a chance to chat freely and enjoy their lunch in the restaurant while I enjoyed a little quiet time.  I walked to the waterfront, found a nice bench, and watched the boats coming in and out of the harbor while I ate the sandwich I had packed back at the campsite.

A few minutes later, a large boat drove into the harbor and someone shouted, “Clear the docks”.   “Is it the President?” the lady sitting on the bench next to me asked as people began to scurry.  “Just kidding…” the man on the boat yelled.  Now, that would have been a great story, but it was just another false alarm.

I met up with the au pairs outside the restaurant and we decided to do a little shopping.  Unfortunately, the little shops are really expensive, so the only real purchases that were made were for post cards to send home.

Getting ready to hit the road again.

We made our way back to our bikes and began our journey back to Oak Bluffs.  Some of the girls rode straight back to town, but a few of us decided to stop at one of the local beaches to enjoy a quick dip in the ocean before returning to town.  The water was pretty cold, so we didn’t last very long.  But it felt very refreshing after a long day of biking and walking.

We peddled back to Oak Bluffs and returned our bikes at Anderson’s Bike Rentals.  When we arrived, we learned that the other girls had already returned their bikes and were out exploring Oak Bluffs.  After a quick stop for ice cream, we all made our way back to the ferry terminal just in time for our 4:00 departure for Falmouth.

A sailboat flying the American flag. Could POTUS be on board?

On the ferry ride back home, we shared our stories about our adventures.  Unfortunately, there were no POTUS sightings for our group that day.

Angeles, Iveta and Angie on the ferry ride back home.

I was not looking forward to the long drive back home.  But to my pleasant surprise, the traffic was very light.  The drive home from Falmouth only took about 1 1/2 hours. Everyone was safely returned to their host families early Sunday evening.  And the planning for our next adventure is already underway…until next time.

Our August Adventure—Day 1: Welcome to Camp Fun!

Two months ago, one of the au pairs in my cluster asked me if I would organize a camping activity.  “Hmmm…that might be fun,” I thought.  There are tons of great places to camp in New England.  I wanted to find a place within two hour’s drive where we could leave on a Saturday afternoon, set up camp Saturday night, and explore the area on Sunday.

Another au pair wanted to have a beach day.  So, I thought, “Why not combine these two activities?”  After researching different areas, I found a cute little family campground on Cape Cod that was willing to give us a sweet  “youth group” deal for $8/per person for the night.  (Shout out to Sippewisset Campground in Falmouth, MA.) I figured we could go to one of the many beautiful beaches on Sunday.

Getting ready for an experience of a lifetime!

A few weeks later, my kids went on a weekend camping trip with their Boy Scout Troop on Martha’s Vineyard.  They took the ferry out of Woods Hole.  They all brought their bikes to Martha’s Vineyard and biked around the island.  That’s when my wheels started spinning and I decided that’s what our au pair group could do on Sunday after camping.  We could take the ferry over to Martha’s Vineyard for the day and rent bikes there.  We could do it all!  Camping, beaching, exploring, shopping, biking….all in one fun-filled weekend.

So fast forward, two months later, and as we are making our final plans for our weekend trip, I find out that the Falmouth Road Race, which attracts over 40,000 spectators to the tiny Cape Cod town, happens to be on the same weekend as our camping trip.  And a few days later, I find out that President Obama and his family would be vacationing on Martha’s Vineyard that same week.

Falmouth Road Race + POTUS + Cape Cod Vacationers= 2 Hour Traffic Delay!

Add these two events together, and what do you get? A 3-hour traffic jam to Cape Cod. The 1 ½ hour drive took us over 3 hours.  But that’s okay.  We made the most out of it by having great conversation in the car.

We finally arrived at the campground and began our fun adventure.  I made the “roommate assignments”, and we began setting up our tents which had been borrowed from host families and friends.  This was not as painful as I thought it would be.  I was really impressed that the au pairs came prepared and knew how to set up their tents!

Setting up our tents was a breeze!

Putting up tents makes you hungry! It’s a good thing we had snacks.  After we ate our snacks, the au pairs wanted to walk to the beach.  There is a lovely 11.5 mile bike bath in Falmouth along the coast called the Shining Sea Bikeway.  It is a beautiful scenic trail that meanders along the coast through wood lands, salt marshes, ponds and seascape.  The campground is located on the Shining Sea Bikeway and has a  path with direct access to the bikeway.  The au pairs planned to walk to the beach along the scenic bike path.  (It’s about a 2 mile walk.)

Shining Sea Bikepath

Beautiful scenery along the Shining Sea Bikepath.

I stayed behind because I was still waiting for one of the au pairs to arrive.  After she arrived, we joined the others on the path to the beach.  We took a long walk, but decided to head back before we reached the beach.  If you are ever in the Falmouth area and are in the mood for a bike ride or just a relaxing scenic stroll, I highly recommend visiting the Shining Sea Bikeway.  It will take your breath away!

After everyone returned to the campsite, we ate dinner and decided to build a campfire. As it turns out, building the campfire was an adventure on its own.  No one could seem to get the fire to stay lit.  It was obvious that there were no Girl Scouts among us…until Angie from Panama and Chris from Brazil came to our rescue.  Who knew girls from tropical climates were good at building fires?

Roasting marshmallows by the campfire.

Gooey marshmallow + chocolate + graham crackers = delicious!

What’s a campfire without s’mores?  We roasted our marshmallows over the fire and then made the traditional camping dessert by smashing the gooey white stuff and a wedge of Hershey’s chocolate between two graham crackers!  The s’mores were a huge success.

Of course, when there’s a campfire, there must be campfire songs.  One of the au pairs suggested that they take turns singing songs from their country.  This part of the evening was very entertaining.  Some of the girls sang in groups while a few people actually sang solos.  I was pretty impressed with the singing talent among our group of au pairs!

Check it out:

After that, we decided to call it a night and go to bed.  (Or at least SOME of us tried to go to sleep, while others spent the next couple of hours singing and giggling.  I won’t mention names here. ) Everyone finally went to sleep after midnight, so of course, around 2 am, a baby started crying and didn’t stop for at least an hour. Just as I finally started to drift off around 5 am, a crow decided to feast on our trash (while crowing!).  Sleep?  Who needs sleep? Ah…the joys of camping.  To be continued…

Winding down after a fun-filled day and night.

Home Sweet Home? Advice for Dealing with “Reverse Culture Shock”

There are many resources for au pairs who have just arrived to the US, and are dealing with culture shock.  Culture shock is “the personal disorientation a person may feel when experiencing an unfamiliar way of life due to immigrating or visiting a new country”.   Summer Blackhurst, Go Au Pair’s Public Relations expert, wrote a series of great articles on the subject recently, including “Culture Shock: The Four Phases”, and “Cultural Adjustment Outcomes“.  I highly recommend that all au pairs and their host families take a few minutes to read these articles as they contain some very intuitive information that may help a new au pair who may be experiencing culture shock as we speak.

But what about au pairs who are finishing up their placement year, or even their second year, and are getting ready to return home?  Surprisingly, they may be experiencing the same type of nervousness about returning to their home surroundings as they did when they first arrived to the US.  What was once familiar, is now foreign to them.

Dr. Lora Cook, founder of the au pair program “Learning to Live Your American Dream”, based out of National Louis University’s Chicago campus, talks about this fascinating issue in one of the sections of the popular program.   “Au pairs usually come to the US expecting to feel culture-shock, but they don’t always go home expecting to experience reverse culture shock,” Dr. Cook told me.  “We like to prepare students by helping them moderate their expectations when they return for either a visit or at the end of their au pair experience.”

Some of the challenges au pairs will face when they re-enter their home environment will be similar to the challenges they faced when they first arrived to the US.

Many au pairs may experience depression when dealing with reverse culture shock.

Believe it or not, language can sometimes be an issue.  When you are immersed in a language and have mastered that language, you start to dream and even think in that language.  If an au pair’s native tongue is not English, she may have a difficult time having a conversation when she returns home.  Finding the appropriate word for an object, for example, might take a few extra seconds because she may need to translate that word in her mind from English.  But, just like mastering English took time, with practice and exposure, those language skills will return.

Getting used to the food again back home may be challenging as well. For the past year, the au pair has become accustomed to American food, restaurants, and large mega-grocery stores.  Spices and available ingredients are probably different and may require getting used to again.  Big city conveniences may not be readily available in the au pair’s home country.  They may feel a sense of frustration by this.

The au pair might expect her relationship with her friends to be the same when she returns home, but may  be disappointed to learn that her friends have moved on.  Maybe they began studying at the university and have made new friends.   Some of her friends may have even gotten married or started a family. Although the au pair has made many new friends, they are probably 1,000’s of miles away in the US or another country.  The au pair has grown and changed as a person as well. She may not have the same interests as her friends.  Feelings of isolation and depression are not uncommon.

The au pair is probably excited about her year abroad and is very happy to tell all of her friends and family about her adventures here in the US.  To her disappointment, she may find that her friends aren’t really interested in hearing about her travels, and may even feel like she is “bragging”.  Feelings of rejection is another common problem for au pairs when they return home.

The Peace Corps, who sends around 4,000 volunteers each year abroad actually has a program to help prepare their volunteers for re-entry into American culture.  In an article published by CNN.com, Jodi Hammer, Coordinator for returned Peace Corps Volunteers, offers some great advice that au pairs should consider:

1.  Be prepared. One of the best ways to avert reverse culture shock is just simply acknowledging that it is real and expected.
2. Share your experiences (with caution). It’s okay to talk about your adventure, but find a way to do so in a way that does not sound pretentious. ( I read an article written by a woman who had spent a year in Thailand on a fellowship.  She has a very unique pair of earrings that she purchased at a local market.  When she wears them, people always ask her where she purchased them, and it gives her the opportunity to tell her story in an unobtrusive way.  )
3. Stay connected.  The internet is a marvelous thing!  It’s very easy for au pairs to stay connected to their international friends when they return home.  Communicating with other former au pairs who may be experiencing some of the same feelings is very helpful.
4. Accept that you’ve changed.  Dr. Cook also offers this advice and added that au pairs should “accept that some of your relationships may be different and you may not be as close to some people as you were before, but just like you developed many new relationships during your time in the US, you can do the same back at home.”

Dr. Cook added one final piece of advice for au pairs.  “Remember that time almost always makes things easier.  So be patient, and you will eventually find your new path back at home just as you did in the US!”

Looking Back…Reflections from A Former Au Pair

One of the great things that I enjoy about my “job” (I use this term loosely) as the Boston Local Area Representative at Go Au Pair is that I get the opportunity to get to know some amazing people from places in the world that I will probably never see.  I try to get to know each of the au pairs that I counsel, and I think I have learned something from each of them.  Like any good parent, I would never admit that any one of them is my favorite, but there have been a few who have really inspired me.

Yolandie Burger from South Africa certainly falls into that category.  Landie is definitely a unique person.  Prior to becoming an au pair, she was a park ranger in the “Bush”.   Landie has a great love and respect for children and animals.  She is a very smart, determined young woman with a fun but serious way about her.  When she spoke about her host children, she always had a smile on her face and a gleam in her eyes…even when she was telling stories about particular incidents where “her kids” displayed behavior that she  described as “naughty”.  She always spoke of them with love and tenderness.  Landie’s former host family is a lovely couple with three charming young girls and two dogs.  She was their au pair for a year and 1/2.

I thought it would be fun to check in with Landie and see how things were going and possibly get some advice from her that I could share with current au pairs or young people considering the au pair program.   I asked Landie what her favorite memory of life in the USA was, and she said, “Honestly every moment that I spent with my host family was memorable.”   Surely there must be something that stands out? I asked.  ” Okay, if I had to choose I would say our beach outings,”Landie admitted.   “Oh yes! New England was so beautiful and peaceful.   I loved it because it was right by the ocean.” Lucky Landie, her former host family lives in the quintessential seaside town of Duxbury, MA.

Au Pair Landie Enjoying Duxbury, MA

I also asked Landie if there was anything she would change about her experience, and she replied, “Oh boy!  I maybe wouldn’t be so strict (with rules), but other than that, I can’t say I would change a thing because everything that happened, it helped me to grow as a person and I had an unforgettable experience.”

I asked Landie what she is up to now, and how the au pair program has benefited her since she has returned home.  “You could say that the Au Pair program was just one more positive thing in my life that pushed me in the right career path”.  Landie is currently pursuing a 4 year degree in Elementary Education.  

I asked Landie if she is still in touch with her host family.  “I am definitely still in touch with my host family.  I send them birthday cards, emails, letters, and we communicate with Facebook and Skype.”  

Landie’s parting words of advice for current au pairs?  “To the other Au Pairs–experience things, be open minded, explore and don’t give up. Time goes by way too fast, so soak up every moment you have in the USA.  And be good to your host family because just as you can make a wonderful difference in their lives, so they can in yours!  And most of all…GO HAVE FUN!”

Beware of Pranksters…Don’t Be An April Fool!

Tomorrow is April Fools’ Day here in the USA.  Although this is not an official holiday, this is a fun day that is celebrated in many parts of the world.  It is a day when humor reigns supreme.  This is the one day you can play a practical joke (a funny, harmless trick) on your family and friends without retaliation. (At least until next year!)

There seems to be some debate regarding the origin of April Fools’ Day, or All Fools’ Day.  Many historians believe the holiday began in France in the 16th century after the adoption of the Gregorian calendar.  Prior to the adoption of the Gregorian calendar, New Years was celebrated near the end of March to coincide with the vernal equinox.  However, many of the French people continued to celebrate New Years on April 1st, either because they did not agree with the change or they had not received word about the change.  Their fellow countrymen began playing pranks on their neighbors to “make fun” of them for their foolishness.  The tradition soon spread throughout Europe.     Other historians believe the tradition started much earlier than that.  The Romans, for example, celebrated “Hilaria”, which was a festival of good cheer that also coincided with the vernal equinox.

However it came to be, April Fools’ Day is always fun at my house!  Living with three boys, there is definitely never a dull moment.   Give them a free pass to play a prank?  Well, that’s just trouble waiting to happen.  They are always tricking me on April Fools’ Day.

This year, I decided that it was my turn to get them back.  So, I did a little research.  And I’m going to share the ideas that I found with my host parents and au pairs.  (I found these on Parenting Magazine’s website, so they have to be okay?  Right? Disclaimer: I am not responsible for your child’s wrath if you decide to try these tricks at home.)

Here are 10 Kid-safe April Fools’ Pranks:

1. Put a few drops of food coloring in a pitcher of milk (choose your kid’s fave shade). Make sure she’s watching when you nonchalantly fix her morning bowl of cereal!

2. Take out cereal bags and put them in mismatching boxes. See how long it takes for everyone to find their favorite cereal.

3.  Wait until your kids are asleep, and then switch them in their beds.

4. Put water in a cereal bowl, and freeze overnight. The next morning, offer to fix your kids a bowl of cereal. Pour the cereal on top of the ice, completely covering it, and watch them try to dig in.

5. Put part of a post-it note over the tracking ball on a computer mouse — it won’t work! (Make sure to write “April Fools!” on the note).

6. Serve up a topsy-turvy dinner to throw your kids for a loop: bake meatloaf in a 12-cup muffin tin and frost with mashed potatoes for a “cupcakes” dinner — bonus if you add food coloring to the spuds. Then toast strips of pound cake for a dessert of “French fries”. Don’t forget red-tinted frosting for ketchup!

7. Bunch up TP and stuff it in the toe of the victim’s shoes. They’ll wonder why their shoes suddenly don’t fit.

8. Add a squirt of lemon juice to a glass of water when your kid’s not looking, then wait for his sour face.

9. Use a pin to make a few small holes in a plastic disposable cup, and make sure to put it back on the top of the stack. Watch as your victim gets a drink and it ends up all over his shirt.  P.S.: Make sure it’s a drink that doesn’t stain, or the joke’s really on whoever has to do the laundry!

10. Take a screenshot of the desktop of Dad’s computer, and leave the image open. Sit back and let him freak out for a few minutes, believing the computer is frozen.

These are just a few ideas.  Try to think of some creative ideas of your own to “fool” you host kids.

Is April Fools’ Day celebrated in your home country?  Feel free to share how you celebrate April Fools’ Day in your country!

Au Pairs Hit the Ice for Some Winter Time Fun

Ying, Amity, Sophie and Sophie take a moment to pose for a snapshot.

Wow!  I’m so behind on my writing, but I am trying to get caught up over the next few days so everyone can hear about all of the fun things we’ve been up to lately.

Our friend, Nemo, managed to shut down all of Boston the  entire weekend that followed the much-anticipated storm.  Luckily, Massachusetts was prepared and we all escaped unscathed.  Our planned au pair outing at Kendall Square’s Community Ice Skating in Cambridge, however, had to be cancelled.  And that’s too bad because we had a record number of au pairs and friends planning to attend this fun, inexpensive, outdoor winter activity.

As the Local Area Representative for Go Au Pair here in the Boston area, I love planning our monthly outings and au pair get togethers.  These monthly activities are an important part of an au pair’s introduction to Amerian culture and provide a great venue for me to get to know these young people and provide them with local support and helpful advice when they need it.

We rescheduled the activity for the following Saturday.  We had a great time, but, unfortunately, many of our au pair friends were unable to attend due to schedule conflicts.

We had some first-timers who had never ice skated before.  Ying, an au pair from China, started the morning off holding on to the railing. After I held her hand a few times around the rink, I eventually let go, and she was skating like a pro!  I love witnessing young people experiencing something new.  It is like watching your child take his first steps.  This is one of the reasons I love my “job”.  (If you can really call this a job?)

Of course, she did fall down a few times, but the important part was, she kept getting back up.

Marcela, Erika and Angeles taking a break.

Angeles, from Mexico and Lily from China, also learned to skate that day.  And then there were some showoffs, like Margaryta from Ukraine, who was practicing her skills ice skating backwards.  Good job, ladies.  I’m proud of you.  Here are some pictures from our fun outing.

Margaryta and Monica–BFF’s

Ying fell down, and she got right back up!

Avoiding Communication Problems

Recently, my 9-year-old son was playing outside with my neighbor’s 10-year-old nephew who was visiting from Cork, Ireland.  After a while, my son came into the house crying.  It seems he had gotten into an argument with the little boy and was quite upset.  I asked him what happened.  Apparently, they were “rough playing” as boys that age tend to do.  Some pine cones were thrown and then some words were exchanged.  “Well, what did he say?” I asked.  “He called me bald!” my son exclaimed.  (My son is currently sporting the David Cassidy-looking long hair.)

Trying to hold back the laughter, I questioned, “Why would he say that?  What happened?” 

“He made me mad so I threw a pine cone at him!” my son exclaimed.  “Then he said ‘You’re bald’,” he added.

“Are you sure he didn’t call you ‘bold’?” I questioned.

 “Well, maybe…” my son replied.

Obviously, this was a case of mistaken pronunciation.  But how many 9-year-old American children do you know who would use the word “bold” in that context?  My son would likely say something like, “You think you’re so tough!”

I thought that this was a great example of how a simple statement made by either a host family or an au pair could easily be misinterpreted.

When we first started searching for an au pair, I remember there was a question on the au pair’s application that said something like, “Have you ever lived away from home for an extensive period of time?”  And the au pair’s response, to my horror, was “Yes, I was in the assylum for 4 weeks.”  My first reaction was, “Oh my.  This young woman has some emotional or mental problems.” I wanted to dismiss her application right away.  But, after I thought about the context in which the question was asked, the nonchallant response, and the complexity of the English language which includes many words that have very similar meanings, I decided to give the au pair the opportunity to explain her answer.  As it turned out, she had spent a month in the hospital due to a childhood illness.  We did end up matching with the au pair, who is a lovely young woman with no mental issues. 

I remember another time, a very sweet au pair named Ella came to my house to visit my au pair.  I asked her how she was adjusting to her new family.  She very politely responded, ” Oh they are very wonderful to me.  When I was sick they gave me a pillow to eat.”  I really did not know how to respond to this piece of information.  Upon further investigation, I discovered that what really happened was that they had given her a pill (Advil) to take when she had a fever. 

The CEO of a company that I used to work for is from New Zealand.  During a sales conference, he was talking about how we needed to show our customers that we care about them and suggested that we should “piss in their pockets.”   I looked around the conference room and saw a room full of dropped jaws. (“Oh, good.  It’s not just me.” I thought.)  Apparently, that is something a New Zealander might say when he intends to wine and dine or generally “suck up” to a client. 

These are obviously silly examples.  But they are all true.  And I guess the main point that should be taken from this is that we need to keep in mind that we are from different cultures and speak different languages where words might have a similar meaning or sound similar but have a very different meaning. We really need to be extra careful when talking to each other, avoid using slang phrases,  and be sure to speak up right away if something is said that doesn’t make sense, or seems offensive or hurtful.  Many times, after further discussion, we find that what we heard was not what was said after all.